90 Day Fiance Rumor Claims Marissa Rubinetti’s Ex Michael DM’d Catie Norboe

A new 90 Day Fiance rumor is pulling two of Season 12’s messiest storylines together. This week, a Reddit user claimed that Michael, Marissa Rubinetti’s ex-husband, slid into Catie Norboe’s DMs, and a fan account on Instagram reposted the claim on Sept. 30, 2026. The story is secondhand at best, and nobody involved has confirmed it.

For the record, both couples are still married. On screen, Marissa and Edward Gomez ended the Tell All planning their next step as a family, and Catie took back her claim that she’d be better off without Josh Atkins. In real life, neither couple has announced a split.

What the 90 Day Fiance Rumor Claims

The claim started in a post on the r/90DayFiance subreddit titled “Marissa’s ex, Michael slid into Catie’s DMs.” The user, u/PinkGreen666, wrote that they attended a Tell All viewing event in Portland, Oregon, where Catie lives. Catie and Josh weren’t there that week. According to the post, the event’s organizer told a group of attendees that Josh and Catie had said Michael messaged Catie.

So the story passed through at least two people before it reached Reddit, and the poster was upfront about it. They called it “just some unprovable hot gossip,” and in the comments they added, “The person who told us could’ve been lying.” They also weren’t sure whether it was Josh and Catie or Marissa who had said it was OK to spread the story. Instagram fan account @kristys90daydrama shared the post on Sept. 30.

That’s where the story stops for now. No outlet has confirmed the message, no screenshot has been verified, and Marissa, Michael and Catie haven’t commented. Until one of them does, it’s a fan claim and nothing more.

Who Is Marissa Rubinetti’s Ex-Husband Michael?

Michael Sanders Jr. married Marissa in September 2012 in Conshohocken, Pennsylvania, and the pair divorced around 2018, according to TV Insider. They share two sons, and he runs an online marketing company.

Fans got to know him on Season 12, where he made no secret of his doubts about Edward. “I mean, look, I may not have been the best husband, but I try to be the best ex-husband,” he said. “I’m a fighter-type person. I’m going to bat for the mother of my kids.”

Michael Was Already a Problem at the Tell All

Michael didn’t need to be on stage to dominate Marissa and Edward’s Tell All segment. In Part 1, which aired Sept. 14 on TLC, Edward said of him, “He’s very jealous, and I’m not okay.”

It got sharper from there. Edward gave his wife an ultimatum: “It’s Michael, or it’s me.” Marissa wasn’t having it. “He is the father of my children,” she told him, and she later admitted, “This whole thing with Michael is devastating.”

Marissa and Catie Already Clashed on Stage

What makes this rumor catch fire is that Marissa and Catie were already at odds. At the same Tell All, Catie admitted to kissing multiple people at a New Year’s Eve party after she married Josh. “I don’t enjoy being together. Sorry. I think I’d do better on my own,” she said.

Marissa was the one who pushed her on it, asking whether she even wanted to be married. Catie shot back, “I can do whatever I want. I don’t have to listen to [Josh]!” and walked off the stage in tears.

By Part 2 on Sept. 21, Catie had softened. “I don’t actually not want to be married,” she said. Marissa and Edward, meanwhile, settled their fight over having a baby by agreeing to look into surrogacy. “I think that when we get home, we should look into the options…set a timeline,” Marissa said.

What Happens Next

The next move belongs to the people named in the post. Marissa has never been shy about defending her family, and Edward has made his feelings about Michael very clear, so fans will be watching both of their Instagram accounts. Catie hadn’t answered the backlash over her post-Tell All behavior as of Sept. 22, and Michael hasn’t said anything publicly about the claim.

If any of them responds, the story changes fast. If none of them does, this will likely fade as one more thread in a busy Season 12 aftermath.

The Verdict

One Reddit claim and a fan repost isn’t proof of anything, and it shouldn’t be treated like it is. The rumor spreads because the Tell All made it feel plausible: Michael was the sore spot in Edward’s story, and Catie was the cast member Marissa called out. That’s good drama, not evidence. Until Marissa, Michael or Catie says something, the smart move is to watch, not to judge.

Do you believe the rumor, or is this just fans connecting dots? Share your take in the comments, and keep checking back for more 90 Day Fiance news and spoilers.

Marissa, Michael and Catie FAQ

Did Marissa’s ex-husband Michael DM Catie?

It’s unconfirmed. A Reddit user posted secondhand gossip from a Portland viewing event, and a fan account reposted it on Sept. 30, 2026. Marissa, Michael and Catie haven’t responded.

Who is Marissa Rubinetti’s ex-husband?

Michael Sanders Jr. They married in 2012, divorced around 2018 and share two sons.

Are Marissa and Edward still together?

Yes. They’re married, and at the Season 12 Tell All they agreed to look into surrogacy.

Are Catie and Josh still together?

Yes, for now. Catie said in Tell All Part 1 that she’d do better on her own, then said in Part 2, “I don’t actually not want to be married.”